Today is Valentine’s Day. An expensive Hallmark holiday that requires significant others buying trivial gifts of flowers or jewelry, kids exchanging sugar and cartoon character greetings, and then you have the people who are single who are doing their best to just get through the day.
Why do we make ourselves crazy crafting the perfect gift, posting flowers (I’m so guilty of this by the way too, but flowers from my husband are few and far between. We laughed that the last time he gave me Gerber daisies was when we found out I was pregnant with the youngest. Thankfully, this was NOT a celebratory gift).
The most important person to love.
We spend our lives trying to please others, comparing ourselves on social media and looking at our own lives thinking it’s not enough, we should do more.
Now that I agree with. Do more. Do more self-love and self-care. I challenge each and every single one of you to do one thing a day for you. Not for your family, not for your coworkers or your boss, or your parents, for your partner, just for you.
It’s called self-care. And self-care is a vital tool for creating inner peace and happiness. For years I chased happiness too, thinking that others would make me happy, that I needed to compete with the PTO moms out there that seem to have every single thing perfect in their lives. I sometimes feel like the only mom who forgets their kid’s shoes for school or runs out of pull-ups because I haven’t made it to the store. Or who makes toast for breakfast because I just don’t have the energy to do something better before coffee.
But I’m learning this self-love thing. Yesterday I bought new shoes for myself to wear as the average of twenty flights of stairs a day had my feet sore and swollen by the end of the day. So I bought new ones to support my feet better. And slip-on, because who wants to re-lace shoes during the day? I felt incredibly guilty spending more on my shoes than I spent on shoes and clothes for my daughters. But my health and well-being is also important.
I went for a walk even though I didn’t want to, because exercise makes me feel good.
I added a few chocolate chips to my steel cut oats with flaxseed that I’m trying to learn to love. Because I don’t love the oatmeal yet, but I do love chocolate. Instead of a bag, a few works too.
So today, on this holiday of love, remember who you should love the most. Yourself. Give yourself a gift. Take time for you.